She is a loveless Beast.
A precious Beast, perhaps,
but she is loveless, after all.
Her only love is for the high life,
if you want to call it love.
We call it addiction.
She is a ruthless predator, feeding on addictive pleasures,
detached from the feelings of her victims,
with no remorse for the harm and pain she causes.
She has no love,
no sense of duty or honor,
but she can pretend those feelings for you,
and almost believe them herself .
Her worst feelings are remorse and regrets
for herself when she gets into trouble —
and a deep, dread fear of permanent abstinence.
Your addicted family member is two separate beings, herself and her Beast. Since her Beast began running her life, she hasn’t been herself. She’s still in there, but in a moral coma most of the time. When she peeks out, she’s horrified to see what she’s done to the family and to you. She may cry and apologize. But then the Beast comes back, and you can’t quite tell exactly when that happened. Neither can she. And so it goes.
By drinking/using, she transforms himself
into an ugly, stinking, dangerous, wild animal.
She is like a werewolf who may awaken
appalled at her conduct the night before,
but already planning to repeat the whole, sorry episode.
She is a danger to you and the rest of the family.
Your first responsibility is to yourself,
to protect yourself,
so that you can protect others in the family
against the Beast in the family.
It’s impossible to come between an addicted person and her favorite fix.
Even prisons can’t do that.
Maybe now it’s time for you to use your power.