Power? Really?
No, not a higher power — your own power.
No one in your family is powerless.
Look how powerful your precious Beast is!By drinking/using, he transforms himself
into an ugly, stinking, dangerous, wild animal.
He is like a wherewolf who may awaken
appalled at his conduct the night before,
but already planning to repeat the whole, sorry episide.Your addicted family member is a black hole
that will suck up everything good nearby
and still not be satisfied.
He will exhaust the family’s emotional and financial resources,
and be angry that you have finally run out
of patience, and tolerance and support.That’s pretty powerful!
His better self isn’t powerless, either. He’s probably said all along,
“I can quit any time I choose.” He’s dead right on that.
Begging “powerless,” is just a lot of Addictive Voice,
straight out of the fellowship of addiction.Even babies have the power of their lungs to get what they want.
When it comes to addiction, families have enormous power.
That is because family members are dependent upon the family.
You’ve had the power all along, but you wouldn’t use it
against a poor, pathetic disease victim,
or against someone who says you’re driving him to drink,
or against the child/parent whose love you miss,
or against the lover you married
but who then disappeared into his private world of pleasure.He is a danger to you and the rest of the family.
Never surrender to your precious Beast.
Never accommodate his addiction!Your first responsibility is to yourself,
to protect yourself,
so that you can protect others in the family
against the Beast in the family.It’s a good thing you have so much power, because there is no help for you,
nor for your precious Beast, nor for your family.You are all going to have to make big decisions!